A Piece of Advice I'm Glad I Got (Even Though It's Super Frustrating)

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  1. Chris Hendrick

    Chris Hendrick

    3 giorni fa

    Allowing myself to be in a place where I am truly open to the world was like learning that magic is real and has been for my entire life. So many wonderful possibilities, and people began to enter my life. It just required me to be present, curious, and genuine with myself and others. Being kind to yourself is the key. From there you can build a relationship with yourself, and when people pick up on that energy, it's completely magnetic. This is something I have honestly forgotten in recent years. I really appreciate your videos Nathaniel. It is so refreshing and inspiring to be reminded of seemingly small, but enormously significant messages. So, thank you for being you

  2. Mysterious Chaos

    Mysterious Chaos

    7 giorni fa

    If only those who are "not interested" would ACTUALLY step aside. Being yourself amidst so much resistance is an incredible challenge. Thank you for these!

  3. Gortak the freezer hope

    Gortak the freezer hope

    18 giorni fa

    Tu eres atractivamente extraordinario, Arigatodesu for all 🍃

  4. Genevieve Spence

    Genevieve Spence

    Mese fa

    I find the quote "just be yourself" closely tied with your ego, check out "the art of being yourself" on ITput, it's a wonderful TED talk that explains in-depth how an ego works

  5. Felipe Ricciardi

    Felipe Ricciardi

    Mese fa

    You know and I know that you purchased transformation mastery academy

  6. Roger Sharp

    Roger Sharp

    Mese fa

    Please don’t use God’s name in vain. “GD” gets a thumbs down. 👎

  7. Lyt


    Mese fa

    this is the topic that I struggle with the whole life how to live authentically and find people who can share similar beliefs 😔

  8. Clara Leung

    Clara Leung

    Mese fa

    Your energy is attractive

  9. Paulo Neto

    Paulo Neto

    Mese fa

    "Look at that blue ass water" I- ksdjkfjfh

  10. Alberto Ortuño

    Alberto Ortuño

    2 mesi fa

    These videos are for me the key for finding the way I want to live my life. Thank you, Nathan.

  11. N A R I

    N A R I

    2 mesi fa

    it gets harder when you want something , you need something else and your ego wants and needs completely different reality

  12. M K

    M K

    2 mesi fa

    Some people have severe issues with letting go of friends. In a co depend context. It's like you are trapped .. so happy about you video though

  13. RaNee Rah

    RaNee Rah

    2 mesi fa

    I so much love this guy and his mindset. His channel is gem, I end up watching at least one of his videos everyday and I love every moment of it. Sending love from the Philippines💕

  14. Angie Rivera

    Angie Rivera

    2 mesi fa

    Thank you, you’ve described this so beautifully and I gained more meaning from the saying “just be yourself” because of it !❤️

  15. Milky Way

    Milky Way

    2 mesi fa

    Accchhhh I cannot stop overthinking this to be honest i hear "be yourself" and immediately wonder who that is? Who is the exactly this "self" there? Bc me that I perceive as ME right now i know has a lot of internalized lack thinking that didn't come from me but rather people that were important to me but not very kind so....it's a part of me but it's not exactly me because it contains the need (motivated by fear and low self-esteem) to change myself for others to some degree pretend even because I was not enough for people that were important for me in the past. So...as much this is a part of me it's not me so who is the "self" in "be yourself" 🙈

  16. Defne Bozkurt

    Defne Bozkurt

    2 mesi fa

    great message

  17. Anj A

    Anj A

    2 mesi fa

    How are you so smart at your age

  18. Rodas Belay

    Rodas Belay

    2 mesi fa

    Maybe its difficult because we are not sure who we are in first place .....so it's best if we first figure that out

  19. April Sparks

    April Sparks

    2 mesi fa

    1:00 be me and receive reciprocal energy. Simple but revolutionary. Thank you 🙏

  20. Emilie Alongi

    Emilie Alongi

    2 mesi fa

    And you never felt like people took too much of you when you open up completely ?

  21. Emilie Alongi

    Emilie Alongi

    2 mesi fa

    Génial j’adore !!!!

  22. Nati Caballero

    Nati Caballero

    2 mesi fa

    Thank you for inspires me, it’s so true

  23. Padma Vathy

    Padma Vathy

    2 mesi fa

    *Nathaniel breathes* Me: Write that down! Write that down!

  24. S C

    S C

    2 mesi fa

    Amazing video!!! I learnt a lot :)

  25. Barry P Walker

    Barry P Walker

    2 mesi fa

    Very wise words that we all need to hear now an then. Thanks for posting

  26. Ems C

    Ems C

    2 mesi fa

    You are so adorable!

  27. MrKrusten Ⓥ

    MrKrusten Ⓥ

    2 mesi fa

    I also think its important to understand that you should be the best of yourself, not the worst. If pedophillia or the desire to punch people for no reason is a big part of yourself, well dont let that part out when you are yourself. I also think to be yourself in a positive sense, you need to be happy. Content, in a good emotional state. I cant really be that good part of myself when theres something in my life constantly weighing myself down and putting "myself" in chains.

  28. Claire Irish Lucero

    Claire Irish Lucero

    2 mesi fa

    Thank you, Nathaniel!

  29. Bobby Cassidy

    Bobby Cassidy

    2 mesi fa

    The best dude on the tube!! Great video on authenticity.

  30. Brandon Zerbe

    Brandon Zerbe

    2 mesi fa

    I've found it helpful to not worry so much about other people's judgements. If you aren't trying to behave as someone expects you to behave, it allows you to be you.

  31. Marc Rozin

    Marc Rozin

    3 mesi fa

    What is the piano soundtrack at 1:57? It's really beautiful

  32. nuné


    3 mesi fa

    hellooo can we be friends?



    3 mesi fa

    such great advice!!! Thank you!

  34. Iv i

    Iv i

    4 mesi fa

    Great talk I love it.

  35. Vashamat'


    4 mesi fa

    I keep turning back to some of the thoughts you mentioned in this video. I've watched it just yesterday and already incorporated some of your thoughts in the conversations with 3 of my friends so far. This is to say, that these thoughts make sense. And I have a friend who is becoming so much closer to being herself throughout the last half a year. And on her example, by all the new things she have started and in which she succeeded that she actually found this freedom, that you were talking about.

  36. Carrie Underwood

    Carrie Underwood

    4 mesi fa

    i love this so much!

  37. Credible Turtlez

    Credible Turtlez

    4 mesi fa

    Woah! I am fascinated. I feel like I’m beginning to figure out this crazy puzzle now.

  38. Cheryl Rajewski

    Cheryl Rajewski

    4 mesi fa

    You are a philosopher of our time. I found this video very helpful and I think a lot of us feel that we have to perform in a way that attracts others and many times it is like playing a role in a play. I remember you telling us how high school was not a good time for you and many can relate to that. It is a time when peers groups become the link to adulthood as we begin our psychological move from our parents and childhood home. What is interesting for me is that at my 10 year high school reunion most of the popular crowd that partied were really not all that successful and the ones that were not all that popular had become great successes and blossomed in ways that you would never expect. In a way the tables had turned and such is life. What is most troubling in my world is when you have a great relationship with someone and then suddenly one of the parties decides to ghost you or put you on the periphery. Then the head games start and you wonder what did I do or say? Most of the time it is about them and not about us, but what you said about just be you and if someone drifts that's okay, just continue to be you so you can attract the right people into your life. Still it is very hard not to wonder what went wrong. In these cases I try to allow myself to feel sad it didn't work out or last and as you said there is room now for others to come into your life.

  39. daneguitarist1


    4 mesi fa

    i like this guy

  40. TheBeautifulSensitive


    4 mesi fa

    You have to believe that being yourself is enough for the right person/people. I have been on a journey self-love/self-discovery just for a few months and I have come into SO MUCH conflict with even my closest friends🙃 My personality has always opposed others (INFP and Highly Sensitive Person here) I'm just now figuring out why. I have to remind myself that I have and always will be enough, and the person for me will appreciate ME. It's hard but, you're not alone, friend.

  41. daraccent


    5 mesi fa

    To realize this Life Lesson at your young age...WoW :0 Good for you! I wish I had known this in my 20's. I would of been much happier and self confident and more assertive in my life and career. Anyhow, just heard Memento Mori. NICE!! Love It!! :)

  42. Marissa Roxas

    Marissa Roxas

    5 mesi fa

    This is by far my favorite video on ITput. I keep coming back to it

  43. Juliana


    5 mesi fa

    My whole life is changing after being loyal to myself. I'm impressed how we're so like minded. Your videos seem an extension of all things I spend time thinking and meditating. How wonderful!

  44. Rosie


    5 mesi fa

    The first 2 mins of this video really spoke to what I'm going thru rn - thank you Nathaniel ❤

  45. Millie Oliveira

    Millie Oliveira

    5 mesi fa

    Man, I needed this. Thank you, Nathan, you're the best!

  46. misitu22


    5 mesi fa

    Sin dudas este es mejor canal que ha llegado a mi vida, gracias Nathan :)

  47. emily


    5 mesi fa

    Don't hate the people that don't like you because after all you don't even like everybody

  48. Marlowe Gile

    Marlowe Gile

    5 mesi fa

    When he knows about Monty Python 🥺❤️

  49. Andrew Fairey

    Andrew Fairey

    5 mesi fa

    From a Jungian standpoint, we don't like all of ourselves. This is because we are composed of the conscious self that we might like, which constructs personas (masks) to "lubricate" our human interactions, and also the unconscious,. The personal unconscious is effectively where we dump all of the parts of ourselves that we do not like. In the first half of life, this dumping is a very real and important process, the fight for consciousness, but in the second half of life, it is about re-assimilating those aspects that were pushed into the unconscious. The difficulty is that the unconscious is not amenable to the will and to rational understanding, because the images it produces are symbolic. We end up resorting to meditation, and interpreting our dreams amongst other methods - and it is a painful process. Only when we can say we at least accept the less savoury and unconscious parts of ourselves, do I think that we can truthfully say that we know ourselves. I suspect that this process is life long, and is never really complete. I think the first part of this process is liking one's self, at whatever stage one is at. Good video, as always, Nathanial - thanks.

  50. Jackob32


    5 mesi fa

    I allways felt like "Be yourself" is kind of missdirection. It should be more like: Try to be figuring out who you want to be, try being it and show it, including the process of becoming it. You will never be the person want to be, but you might get closer to it. In case you become the person you want to be somehow, you are lost, because you are stuck.

  51. Marie


    5 mesi fa

    ouiii c'est trop beau la Bretagne :) Je m'étais dit que j'allais me coucher tôt ce soir mais ta chaîne est passionnante! Tu dois être le genre de personne avec qui on commence à discuter par hasard et qui doit être incroyablement intéressante hahaha :)

  52. nickky ivy

    nickky ivy

    6 mesi fa

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  53. Bunny Teeth

    Bunny Teeth

    7 mesi fa

    I'm not so crazy about this advice because I was labelled autistic as a kid. I sure did act like myself and people treated me like I was autistic. I can't stand being treated like I'm autistic. If being myself makes people treat me like I'm autistic, being myself is a terrible idea.

  54. Фыр Фыр

    Фыр Фыр

    7 mesi fa

    I am trying to improve my English with your videos, because content is interesting. Thank you ))

  55. Martha M

    Martha M

    7 mesi fa

    Hi. I recently stumbled upon your channel. I'm enjoying your videos. Have you written any books? I feel that you have or that you are going to or should. Congrats on the channel. It's fantastic.

  56. J J

    J J

    7 mesi fa

    I hope we cross paths one day :)

  57. Hussnain Shah

    Hussnain Shah

    7 mesi fa

    You are just so wise.

  58. ארי עלי

    ארי עלי

    7 mesi fa

    This advise only correct if applied to types of people who already have invested whether their inner personality is really them or taught by the environment their grewn into.. Otherwise this topic is very subjective and may well be misleading to only project and not look within

  59. Lola Scipio

    Lola Scipio

    7 mesi fa

    I love that you enjoy Bretagne so much! It is the region where my mom came from, and it will always have a place in my heart.

  60. Katie Shia

    Katie Shia

    7 mesi fa

    This video is so. valuable. thank you.

  61. M. R.

    M. R.

    7 mesi fa

    Love the bookshelve behind you

  62. Maud Tevenn

    Maud Tevenn

    7 mesi fa

    I allow myself to comment in French just for your practice 😊 Je commente très rarement sur ITput - c’est peut-être apercevoir ce petit bout de Bretagne qui m’a donné l’envie :) - juste pour dire : Un grand Merci Nathaniel. Merci pour ces magnifiques vidéos riches en forme et fond. Je suis obligée de les regarder une par une pour prendre le temps d’assimiler et méditer sur ce que tu nous racontes. Les « binge watcher » serait un sacrilège haha Bref, je les savoure ! Merci encore pour ces pensées très inspirantes et bravo pour tout ce travail 👏🏻

  63. * Lotusblume *

    * Lotusblume *

    7 mesi fa

    It’s taken me 50 years to get to being myself. It was after a divorce and existential crisis. I am finally coming out on the other end and getting better. I have pretty much lost or had to painfully say goodbye to many people, most people, in my life because they do not fit or even hurt who I am. I am way happier alone with just myself than trying to be someone else for others. I like my life now and hopefully it will get even better after this pandemic is over. 🌸

  64. Linda Firth

    Linda Firth

    7 mesi fa

    Loving your videos - looking forward to more. x

  65. Ephraim Uchiha

    Ephraim Uchiha

    7 mesi fa

    Love you brah ❤️

  66. Alice Kaye Pi

    Alice Kaye Pi

    7 mesi fa

    Whenever I watch one of your videos I get the feeling of receiving advice from a friend. It feels nice, makes me think a lot, and also gives me the startling sensation that "wow! I'm not the only one thinking about this!" Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

  67. Allan ish

    Allan ish

    7 mesi fa

    Amazing video! Thank you so much 🙏🏻

  68. greg bown

    greg bown

    7 mesi fa

    Thank you for this, especially relevant for me was "it's about focusing on what I've got, not what I'm lacking" in a world where we are constantly drawn into the idea we are competing for limited resources and we need to be all the things that one person needs because we cannot see outside of that little box we built ourselves into. Likewise, another way of looking at someone you love leaving you for whatever reason is to Not think of it as a loss,, but that you Had the wonderful experience of loving that person. This enables you to be grateful for the love you recieved instead of seeing everything as a loss. The scarcity is a perception problem we took on because someone was different, trapping ourselves in a perpetual quest to be liked instead of liking others

  69. tinues


    7 mesi fa

    I like your videos ☺️

  70. Akku Yelamanova

    Akku Yelamanova

    7 mesi fa

    I feel like I can relate to this. During my pre-adulthood times (I recently turned 20) I always questioned myself like “Who am I?” and “Where is the real me?” It seemed to me that I was a creation of somebody else’s opinions about me, their images about me. Something about this wasn’t feeling right. As you said, it was frustrating. I couldn’t establish deep connection with the most important person in my life - with me. Fortunately, I stopped seeing myself from other people’s perspective and slowly started to seek for scattered pieces of real me. I keep doing it anyway but at least now there is a solid foundation of my own personality,I guess. It’s an inherently uncomfortable process which will take time but being in a true harmony with myself is what truly important for me. Older I get the less I evaluate myself based on other people’s opinions and actions towards me. It’s priceless.

  71. Quantum[0]blivion


    8 mesi fa

    I'm glad to be alive to watch your videos. They are all phenomenal!

  72. Ekaterina Bolbukh

    Ekaterina Bolbukh

    8 mesi fa


  73. Paul Pinto

    Paul Pinto

    8 mesi fa

    That's hard for introverts to accept

  74. Marissa Roxas

    Marissa Roxas

    8 mesi fa

    I know you uploaded this only a couple of weeks ago, but I've already watched this video several times in moments when I'm doubting myself or questioning my worth. And it has, without fail, helped interrupt those negative thought patterns so thank you.

  75. Astraedits


    8 mesi fa

    The like to dislike ratio is unbelievable here .

  76. Jessica Palacios

    Jessica Palacios

    8 mesi fa

    ¡La vida es una cosa tremenda! Me gusta ver tus cambios vídeo tras vídeo, genial.

  77. Emily Weaver

    Emily Weaver

    8 mesi fa

    this really resonates with me. seriously all about the energy you share.

  78. Craig Chambers

    Craig Chambers

    8 mesi fa

    I'm with you. I'm there, but it's harder now. Somehow.

  79. Shanea Rahim

    Shanea Rahim

    8 mesi fa

    Your videos keep me going.

  80. Blind Hydra

    Blind Hydra

    8 mesi fa

    magnificent as always

  81. Dusk


    8 mesi fa

    Reassess and notice those who often don't like when you "be you." Those who usually don't respond to you "being you" but only nit pick things "you" should "be" instead of you "being you."

  82. percypunto


    8 mesi fa

    Man I so wish we were in the same part of the world ... would be awesome to hang with you .... hope you're well anyway buddy and the sun is shining down on you *peace*

  83. oh whatever

    oh whatever

    8 mesi fa

    This is the best video in ITput. However, you gotta have bruises and subsequent ( introspective) epiphanic awakenings to actually understand Nathaniel's words.

  84. Gavin B.

    Gavin B.

    8 mesi fa

    3:24 Love the côte de granit rose. One of those houses in the background was built by Gustave Eiffel for his son Albert.

  85. Ruben Gomez

    Ruben Gomez

    8 mesi fa

    Thank you for this video, It was such a great inspiration for my own life, good energy to you!

  86. Maemi No Yume

    Maemi No Yume

    8 mesi fa

    if you replace the "be you" with "tell the truth" the entire video still makes sense, and I would say that it still makes the same sense. Not being yourself is just like failing to tell the truth. And the truth are things that are inside you, telling the truth is not just about telling something with words, but with how you act and even how you feel and see the world so there is no "one truth", there is your truth, so it's just like being you. If you don't know who you are, just don't be who you know that you aren't, in other words: don't lie to yourself or to others.

  87. Calum Naylor

    Calum Naylor

    8 mesi fa

    Also a collab with seek discomfort would be awesome

  88. Calum Naylor

    Calum Naylor

    8 mesi fa

    Being yourself isn’t just about being content and confident with who you are but also about constantly looking for ways to impove yourself. You not only want to be yourself, you want to be your best, most complete self. At current we are all like partially done puzzles(varying depending on how well we know who we are). If you push yourself out of your comfort zone, you find more pieces of who you are which allow you to grow. If you dont look for the pieces you'll always feel incomplete and like somethings missing. Once more the pieces of your puzzle are hiden amongst an array of other peoples pieces of puzzle which wont fit yours without being forced. You have to get out of your comfort zone and explore daunting, new experiences, hobbies, interactions and so on in order to find the 1/1000 piece that fits your puzzle. If you remember which pieces you already have and dont try to force pieces together which arent supposed to be, then you can be you and grow yourself at the same time. Your puzzle is complete when you feel enough for yourself and those around you and with that you always have the potential to be more than you are it just contradictingly takes you exploring away from what makes you you.

  89. R Giasson

    R Giasson

    8 mesi fa

    Meditation is an amazing way to get to that goal and really start getting to know yourself and who you want to be

  90. Jamie Knight

    Jamie Knight

    8 mesi fa

    Its hard to fully be yourself when it feels like all your life you've been taught that being yourself is wrong or it won' t get you anywhere. It can be as subtle as someone giving you minor critics for how you dress or act. Or someone just outright saying that you have to act a certain way in order to get this job or people to see you in a positive light. It causes people to put on a 'mask' every time they go out into society because they are conditioned to think that's the 'right way'

  91. Romel Nicolasora

    Romel Nicolasora

    8 mesi fa

    Here is a similar thought that I have re being yourself. soyromillo.wordpress.com/2018/07/31/sad-to-be-sad/

  92. Tony


    8 mesi fa

    Not only people will just say Be Yourself or Do You. They will also say (Be Positive) Not saying it's a bad thing, But when the wrong person says It, I'm like: Ugh Shut up! 💯

  93. Baptiste Jacquin

    Baptiste Jacquin

    8 mesi fa

    Ton accent en français est super mignon !

  94. Karla Zero

    Karla Zero

    8 mesi fa

    Accepting yourself be the way you are, is hard when you feel like you don't belong in this world, which is why I always struggled with this. But life feels a million times better when you don't care what people think of you just because you don't fit the mould, and allowing yourself to be free. 💛💛💛 I love that you're allowing yourself to be more of yourself. Your personality is shining through!

  95. MooHv


    8 mesi fa

    Thank you for this ! You are unbelievable and your approach really helps me. Sometimes we are focused on what people could think and that's break the process, our life goal. We say to us :" I need to be like this or like him to be loved" but I think it's the wrong way.

  96. Jacey Durland

    Jacey Durland

    8 mesi fa

    Christ tells us to deny ourselves, stoically bear our cross, and follow his teachings. Why settle for ourselves when we can have so much more greatness, glory and life by residing in his identity?

  97. Cléa Chevalier

    Cléa Chevalier

    8 mesi fa

    ❤❤❤ love it ! What I needed to hear right now !

  98. Tio Jason

    Tio Jason

    8 mesi fa

    Hey you. Yes you. random person that I probably will never meet. I truly hope that you will find happiness in life. Today is going to be a great day :)

  99. Adrien Poirier

    Adrien Poirier

    8 mesi fa

    What i learned : You can't be yourself if you're focused on doing and having. You are so convinced that the answer lies outside that you forget that you already have everything inside you. Spend time with yourself and observe what is going on. The answers will come on their own. And don't try to know who you are because it's impossible, we are constantly changing. Just enjoy life :)

  100. Morgan Cushing

    Morgan Cushing

    8 mesi fa

    Love the song! Everyone should give it a listen.

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