Why The Internet Will Discourage You (And How to Beat It)

In this video, I explore why I believe such a dramatic disconnect exists between the internet and "real life" and why this can ultimately lead many of us to feel discouraged.
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  1. Sarah H

    Sarah H

    Mese fa

    You are so true to yourself, thank you for being honest and authentic ... I connected with everything you said

  2. Coffee With Psychologist

    Coffee With Psychologist

    Mese fa

    Thank you Nathatniel, I created my channel with an idea to inspire people who see what's under the surface of everyday life. That's why you inspire me. You are right , we see something online and we lose our identity subconsciously comparing ourselves with others...and we think we are not good enough. I feel like consequence of social media is : we are all feel we should "ACHIEVE SOMETHING BIG", so we detach from our true self....and we don't realize peace is in simple, slow, calm life and mindset that we are enough....

  3. Jaxon Callan

    Jaxon Callan

    Mese fa

    Wow... 30% of his audience clicks off the video because of their limited attention spans. I pray for the 10 second toms out there 🙏🏼

  4. Rick Larson

    Rick Larson

    Mese fa

    Excellent information about the impact of the internet upon us. Ultimately, all content on social media and the internet is managed and not real life but we frequently forget that fact. For some reason, as I was watching I kept thinking of the line from George Orwell's "1984": "Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood."

  5. Sydney Johnson

    Sydney Johnson

    2 mesi fa

    Absolutely brilliant

  6. Amaan 1 1 1 3 8

    Amaan 1 1 1 3 8

    2 mesi fa

    It's simple. Discouragement or anything they are just some thoughts and they will only draw your attention towards them for a split second and it has is up to us whether to ponder over it and go down the hole.

  7. 2 L

    2 L

    2 mesi fa


  8. Osmaily Ortiz Abreu

    Osmaily Ortiz Abreu

    2 mesi fa

    Im so grateful to have passed that 1 minute spam in all the videos I've watched in your channel!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!! Makes me feel less aloneee hahaha

  9. Lau MFreeman

    Lau MFreeman

    2 mesi fa

    Love the final quote

  10. Zainab mk

    Zainab mk

    2 mesi fa

    I love your videos! I love how real you are!

  11. casiragui52


    2 mesi fa

    You're amazing. Welcome to my life.

  12. Hilda Elson

    Hilda Elson

    2 mesi fa

    You know, the irony is that i was beginning to be discouraged by watching all your fabulously shot videos and fantastic content, thinking ‘I could never be like Nathaniel.’ Then this video came up. You are an amazing human being, and I hope that our generation is represented by someone like you. Keep up the great work!

  13. Derpy Dimentio

    Derpy Dimentio

    3 mesi fa

    I just like listening to you talk

  14. Anastasija Andrejeva

    Anastasija Andrejeva

    3 mesi fa

    it would be cool if you write a book about the dishonesty and discourage people on internet through your unique perspective. I would read this, 'cause I think it's understudied theme that's very important for every internet user.

  15. Hanna


    3 mesi fa

    Man i love your videos soo much they are literally my reward for working and studying at the end of the day. They give me new energy and motivation and positivity, im incredibly thankful for them. When you talked about storytelling in this video here and how they dont correspond to reality i couldn’t help thinking that thats exactly what they are for, like they convey ideas and ideals to learn from. In fact right now im thinking like doesn’t the whole world consist of stories. Ok this was obviously a simple and spontaneous thinking out loud and i have actually no idea wether youre gonna mention this later on because i havent watched the whole video yet. Sorry for this boring comment hahah

  16. Mahima Moses

    Mahima Moses

    4 mesi fa

    Hey, thank you for this video, it's given me a lot to think about. I'm in one of those slumps myself (this whole 2020 lol) and so to hear someone speak about it- especially in terms of differences in our race, age and gender, was quite reassuring to me because I've often felt inferior according to those parameters. I'm aspiring to be someone who puts their thoughts and lived reality out there as well which is terrifying and extremely anxiety-inducing because the question that constantly plagues me is - people are out here looking for entertainment that makes them forget about how shitty their lives are and not art that reminds us constantly of that- (because what I create pertains very directly to my human experience), so it was also reassuring to know that there are people and audiences who are into this sort of thing whilst also keeping in mind that packaging it in an appealing consumable format is probably just an inevitable thing to abide by with the way the world consumes media today, Okay, this was long, thanks again!

  17. Sarah Li

    Sarah Li

    4 mesi fa

    amazing video, thank you!

  18. D


    4 mesi fa

    I just feel your honesty in your voice and vibe

  19. Karishma Tahsin

    Karishma Tahsin

    4 mesi fa

    I absolutely love your content Nathanial. It's so eye-opening and full of rich perspectives - something I always try to seek whenever I feel lost, demotivated, and discouraged. Keep it up!

  20. Dorazymon Nomeador

    Dorazymon Nomeador

    4 mesi fa

    This was heartfelt thank you for this authentic piece ♥️

  21. Joaquin Vidal

    Joaquin Vidal

    5 mesi fa

    De los mejores videos que he visto en mi vida, honestamente. Eres un ejemplo a seguir para mi.

  22. The Evening Word

    The Evening Word

    5 mesi fa

    Amen! Great Message! Thanks! itput.info/zone/video/Zp-LZ5Gsyc3HqH4

  23. luca toni

    luca toni

    6 mesi fa

    Thank you

  24. nickky ivy

    nickky ivy

    6 mesi fa

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  25. Marija Urosevic

    Marija Urosevic

    7 mesi fa

    I like the way you edit 🤙🏻

  26. W4ff133z


    7 mesi fa

    Love the intro that you made to this video. Pretty good hook on to the people.

  27. Fernanda Zanini

    Fernanda Zanini

    7 mesi fa

    Gostei que os títulos estão em português... 🇧🇷 continue com os vídeos, a edição está muito boa. Alguns me lembram o filme limitless. Vou ver todos seus vídeos comecei ontem

  28. Ariel Morales Arias

    Ariel Morales Arias

    7 mesi fa

    Gracias hermano y a seguir adelante

  29. Media Marketing Innovation

    Media Marketing Innovation

    8 mesi fa

    Thank you, your videos help me a lot

  30. Eva Carballeira Rabuñal

    Eva Carballeira Rabuñal

    8 mesi fa

    Gracias Nathaniel! Lo digo en español porque creo que lo entiendes. Esto tiene mucho que ver con una conversación profunda sobre propósito y compararse con los demás que tenía ayer con mi hermano y este video es increíblemente ilustrativo de lo que quiero que entienda. Tu canal es estupendo 💚

  31. Lauren


    8 mesi fa

    Literally as I was watching this I began to compare myself to you, as I'm now in my late 20's still trying to figure this out...lol. Comparison is such an automatic response for most of us without any realization of it. Thanks for the insightful commentary!

  32. Jay Jarvis

    Jay Jarvis

    8 mesi fa

    Comparing yourself to anyone other than the you of yesterday tends to be the biggest way someone becomes discouraged. I've felt discouraged many times and it is likely that I will feel discouraged in the future again. But stopping the "Comparison trap" is a big step towards managing that better.

  33. Carolina Oliveira

    Carolina Oliveira

    8 mesi fa

    Love it.

  34. anisa endah

    anisa endah

    8 mesi fa


  35. Prekshya Dawadi

    Prekshya Dawadi

    8 mesi fa

    Honestly, this has to be the best thing I've watched on the internet today (and most of your videos are) and I can truly day that this really helped me get a new perspective on things. Thanks.

  36. Gabriel Iacobazzi

    Gabriel Iacobazzi

    9 mesi fa

    This was my favourite that I’ve seen of yours so far, really great.

  37. ronnie braz de sousa

    ronnie braz de sousa

    9 mesi fa

    Parabéns pelo excelente trabalho! Uso os seus vídeos pra treinar o meu inglês e sempre aprendo algo de muito valor.

  38. Şeyda Vera

    Şeyda Vera

    9 mesi fa

    I love this, thank you!

  39. Andrzej Maranda

    Andrzej Maranda

    9 mesi fa

    Merci beaucoup pour cette video! Thank you for this video! Muchas gracias para este video!

  40. Jessica Jacobson

    Jessica Jacobson

    9 mesi fa

    Why is your content so beautiful

  41. Travel With Melon

    Travel With Melon

    9 mesi fa

    I couldn’t sleep and ITput showed me your video. 1 hour later I’m still watching your videos and omg, thank you so much!! Your videos are amazing and I love they way you explain everything. The past 5 years I changed every 5-7 months to different countries and places. it’s a very special way of living and it’s amazing to see stories from people who live the same kind of lifestyle ✨ Merci !

  42. Abril Restrepo López

    Abril Restrepo López

    9 mesi fa

    I find your videos so captivating and relaxing! keep doing you!!!

  43. Bazsó Máté

    Bazsó Máté

    9 mesi fa

    Your content is amazing and just ur perspective, and everything is so so likeable, you inspire me a lot! Thank you Nathaniel!

  44. Jimena Carranza

    Jimena Carranza

    9 mesi fa

    Just a quick comment, I'm a guatemalan, born and raised in Guatemala, and believe me, not all people in Guatemala are poor and without opportunities. Is just a big movie industry "cliché" to address Guatemala as a poor country. Nonetheless, we're really happy people :) Greetings!

  45. Witek Żak

    Witek Żak

    9 mesi fa

    You may lose a gazillion percent of viewers by the end of your videos, but be sure that you'll never lose me.

  46. Cameron Battaglia

    Cameron Battaglia

    9 mesi fa

    people stop watching your videos after 1 minute because you make people think and most people try to avoid thinking

  47. Suvadeep Mondal

    Suvadeep Mondal

    9 mesi fa

    This is a great video

  48. renae gray

    renae gray

    9 mesi fa

    I love your serious music hahaha. It soothes my mind. What song is in the background?

  49. Gloria Edmund

    Gloria Edmund

    9 mesi fa

    Also, I totally understand why people use their best highlights online. I do this too, and it makes perfect sense on why it's done. You want to get a message out, and you want to get it to reach as big of an audience so your message can make an impact. It would be like shooting yourself in the foot to not play the game we are inevitably apart of.

  50. Gloria Edmund

    Gloria Edmund

    9 mesi fa

    Sorry for the late arrival, but if you're wondering, I always stay till the end. I'm on this self discovery journey as well, and it really helps, being able to hear and see how a fellow human being is doing too. It's weird, but it helps me feel more okay with the uncertainty of life.

  51. Panzerthe Cat4

    Panzerthe Cat4

    9 mesi fa

    I watch till the end every single time. You have helped me in many ways. I guess I should say that more often ... but thank you for who you are and the work you do

  52. fer_ m

    fer_ m

    9 mesi fa

    Nathan, thank you for being so open and honest. Really appreciate this kind of talks. We need to start talking more about this. Gracias :)

  53. Tonika


    9 mesi fa

    What is your first language? Is English your native language? I'm puzzled cause you wrote"Paris" under the video. Where are you from?

  54. Ayman Siam

    Ayman Siam

    9 mesi fa

    I watch 100% of ALL your videos!

  55. naziy


    9 mesi fa

    U are handsome..love ur videos

  56. Miss Relaxed

    Miss Relaxed

    9 mesi fa

    This is one of my favourite video of your Nathaniel ! I love your storytelling skills!

  57. Dave Lewis

    Dave Lewis

    9 mesi fa

    Perhaps people click off because of how pretentious you are

  58. Tiffany Williams

    Tiffany Williams

    9 mesi fa

    Thank you for sharing so much vulnerability and reality. I love your videos!

  59. Kristina G

    Kristina G

    9 mesi fa

    I love your content! You're great!

  60. Ryan


    9 mesi fa

    We did not evolve to see reality; in fact, the exact opposite, the fancy of fitness blinds us to what we are. The probability of continued survival falls to zero when adjustable for aligning our perception with reality. Evolution has wrapped us in a bubble;one of food, sex and pleasure, an ambient blanket of anything but what is actually real. Do not be discouraged. You matter, we matter precisely because we are not supposed to mean anything at all but do.

  61. Serban Nina

    Serban Nina

    9 mesi fa

    I watch your videos because you make meaningful and honest content. I think we all live and feel these emotions that you describe and at a point in life we start to listen those emotions and try to make sense of it. You are a constant reminder to myself that it is alright to feel bad or struggle sometimes. Keep up the good work.

  62. IGoByFat


    9 mesi fa

    You're so handsome . Yep said it.

  63. Suad K.

    Suad K.

    9 mesi fa

    You should check out Islam :)

  64. nord kristal

    nord kristal

    10 mesi fa


  65. No Fear

    No Fear

    10 mesi fa

    What a gem of a mind he has 🧠💫

  66. Well Put Together

    Well Put Together

    10 mesi fa

    Amazing video. I'm going through transformation in my life and film videos on how I'm overcoming them on my youtube chanel

  67. Pippi Amorin

    Pippi Amorin

    10 mesi fa

    Sos fascinante. Gracias! ❤️

  68. anjelka stipanovich

    anjelka stipanovich

    10 mesi fa

    ... why.... am i crying ????? Why am i crying ??? This video really spoke to me fuck thank u

  69. Yessenia Rodriguez

    Yessenia Rodriguez

    10 mesi fa


  70. VoltZ


    10 mesi fa

    I usually watch you're vids for a few minutes to see if the message clicks with me and my emotional state. It doesn't mean I find all your vids uninteresting. Most of your vids are surely very well made and that you should be proud of. I found that your vids resonate with me the most when I'm doing something productive, not right now when I'm sitting at home watching sht.

  71. Fabio Giuliano

    Fabio Giuliano

    10 mesi fa

    I just love you and your video! I just wanted to leave a thank you!

  72. JV Lamsen

    JV Lamsen

    10 mesi fa

    Wow! The last time I checked you were 300k subscribers. Now you’ve reached a million. Dang! Congrats brother! Keep going what you do👊🏼

  73. Elenya


    10 mesi fa


  74. Amira Rekiki

    Amira Rekiki

    10 mesi fa

    please consider adding subtitles to your videos, as a non native english speaker it's hard to keep up. Other than that, this has to be one of my fav video of yours keep up the good work

  75. blackandcold


    10 mesi fa

    I'm watching not because I like you or I want to learn much from you, but you are so much different than me. It's refreshing seeing things from a perspective I never could have had on my own. Still would drink a beer with you 5/5 times

  76. Fernanda Furlani

    Fernanda Furlani

    10 mesi fa

    amazing video

  77. Just life

    Just life

    10 mesi fa

    Super vidéo et super intéressante , merci pour les sous-titres !

  78. Annie D

    Annie D

    10 mesi fa

    You are so humble!

  79. L A

    L A

    10 mesi fa

    Your honesty....is golden...success is failing multiple times without losing enthusiasm.

  80. Ays __cream

    Ays __cream

    10 mesi fa

    Turkish Subtitle +111

  81. Javier


    10 mesi fa

    We've always being feeling your sincerity on each video, no matter what the topic, putting your humility on front and telling us not to get your results/experiences for granted and test first on our own outlook before getting distressed for not achieving the same as you do. We cannot feel discouraged with your work, it's always great, keep it up. Un abrazo!

  82. Facundo Gambacorta

    Facundo Gambacorta

    10 mesi fa

    i felt that you talked a lot about clickbait, and not do much about the main topic, but loved the phrases

  83. Emma Witter

    Emma Witter

    10 mesi fa

    Me: always comparing my video content to Nate’s fancy slow-mo shots Nate: don’t be fooled by my fancy slow-mo shots

  84. Angelina


    10 mesi fa

    Nathaneal: Let's say you're a German that speaks English as a second language ... Me: (probably 1 out of 100000 of them) HOW DO YOU KNOW?!

  85. Zane Chandy

    Zane Chandy

    10 mesi fa

    Thank you Nathan for making this video. It really helped me a lot :)

  86. Natalia Espana

    Natalia Espana

    10 mesi fa

    This is a fucking masterpiece.

  87. Jos Grace

    Jos Grace

    10 mesi fa

    Thanks nath!

  88. Emi Queen

    Emi Queen

    10 mesi fa

    Omg I'm a German who speaks English and learns Japanese 😂💕

  89. Hardik Derashri

    Hardik Derashri

    10 mesi fa


  90. Nusrat Ullah Roomi

    Nusrat Ullah Roomi

    10 mesi fa

    This is amazing. Keep doing what you do.

  91. Jonathan Lobo

    Jonathan Lobo

    10 mesi fa

    Exactly why I deleted every social media besides Snapchat (the least mentally draining). Ppl don’t even realize how addicted they are to these things until they try to go one day without them and most can’t. I encourage everyone who feels discouraged to remove themselves from their phones and put their effort on other things :)

  92. Dolla Bhowmik

    Dolla Bhowmik

    10 mesi fa

    He is so honest...

  93. Shreyas


    10 mesi fa

    Do you consider "attention span" as it is now to be a problem? The more I realise my attention span, it feels like I am getting impatient to get out of the video and feel bad for not watching it completely.

  94. Ana Dias

    Ana Dias

    10 mesi fa

    you could provide the list of words you search for when you want to learn a language? I have some language in making the list

  95. gimmetheacoountplix


    10 mesi fa

    Remember an old saying "things on TV look better than in real life"? Same is true for ITput. When shot through a lense everything looks more intense and better than IRL. But when you are there it is just the same. Try to visit a place you have seen somewhere and you will probably be disappointed. I visited a garden that I had seen on youtube, damn reality is depressing. :) It was not bad at all but when you dont see the whole picture your mind is piecing together the rest. Same things as when looking for a house/apartment, the pictures of it does not compare to the real thing.

  96. Timothy Murray

    Timothy Murray

    10 mesi fa

    A most eloquent charlatan justifying being a charlatan. Imagine monetizing clickbait videos designed to both make people think you're amazing and make them feel like they're bettering themselves despite being built on a foundation of dishonesty. Well, it's actually easy to imagine, it's pretty common. I gotta hand it to Drew, he puts together a pretty package. But at the end of the day, he's peddling B.S. and making a good living off it. The level of dishonesty in the "I learned x language in 7 days" really enlightened me to just how manipulative these videos are. They leave you with a sense that you're bettering yourself by setting up unrealistic expectations, and then that becomes the reward in your brain instead of actually doing anything to get better. Then you keep coming back for more. Well designed, dopamine inducing clickbait with the sole purpose of monetizing off the vulnerable. I'd have more respect for Drew if he wasn't so pretentious and a little more transparent, but this entire video was just a very eloquent justification of charlatanry. I know this is probably going to piss off some of his fans, but understand that I used to be one of his fans too. It doesn't take much to peel back the veil and see what's really going on here.

  97. missmayflower


    10 mesi fa

    My off days occur way more often than once in a while.

  98. Tefo Phatlane

    Tefo Phatlane

    10 mesi fa

    Nathaniel you are at 1 Million subscribers. Congratulations I've been waiting for this for so long. I'm so happy for for you.

  99. Abdirahman Muqtar

    Abdirahman Muqtar

    11 mesi fa

    Congratz with the 1 mil subs :D

  100. Tora Lundin

    Tora Lundin

    11 mesi fa

    The quote you are using is meaning to be general but is using "men" as if they were the only ones Walking this plantet. I see it all the time. Apperently men are seen as representatives for the hole spieces while women are not mentioned. Please Think about language use and language patterns. Language make up the Foundation of how we interpret the World and also convey how we see it. @nathanieldrew

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